Reflections from sitting with myself

I have taken a few days to step outside of my everyday life to be alone and meditate. I have been absolutely shocked at the chaos of my mind, as I am every time I truly arrive into the present moment. The shocker is how rare this presence truly is. 

When I wake up in the morning here I gather wood to make a fire before meditating, and while I do that I think about meditating. While I am meditating I notice how tight my hips feel after sleeping on a foreign mattress, and I can’t stop fantasizing about my yoga practice which will follow my mediation. During my yoga practice, I’ve almost completely mentally moved on to preparing myself a cup of tea and sitting down to write. Even now, to be honest, I am thinking of my breakfast. 

In addition, I’m thinking of all the details of cleaning this little cabin before I leave, I’m worried about not having enough milk for when the shops are closed for New Years, and yes, I’m planning all of 2024. This little downhill race train of my mind has an incredible amount of  momentum, and most of my life it is dragging me down the tracks. 

As I become aware of this chronic habituation I catch glimpses of what is behind it. Myself, and everything else, just existing in this moment. Pure presence, ripe with the remembrance that there is no where to go because this is all there is.

I remember a time when I was so sure that any change in the world would happen from within, from each individual waking up on a spiritual level. This was a time before I understood colonization, the destructive nature of capitalism, and all the systems of oppression that keep the world on its own train track of suffering.

I am driven mad by spiritual communities’s claims that everything can be solved by an individual’s spiritual practices. Embodiment - the ability to feel into your own body with curiosity, also happens in a context. This includes having the time and money to commit to practices, and it also includes being physically safe enough to feel like you can show up in your own skin. This context includes intersectional generational trauma, gender identity, race, mental health, whether or not you are in chronic pain, access to therapy, and access to community to support you in your personal/spiritual growth, just to name a few factors. I am careful to not be dismissive of these levels of complexity because it is this very dismissal from the white-washed world of yoga and spirituality that has pushed me away from these conversations and led me to feel less than comfortable in spirituality-centered crowds. Critical thinking and questioning our biases and influences are also powerful spiritual tools, they point us towards the dark corners of our psyche so we know where to shine the flashlight to dismantle our own internalized oppression. They make true self-love and universal human empathy more possible. 

Holding all of that, I’m noticing that I’ve tipped the scales towards hyper focusing on the external, and in that I’ve forgotten my own power. The truth is, the two are not separate, and whenever we declare that either the inner is a one way street to the outer, or vice versa, we have forgotten something crucial. 

I used to herd sheep each Winter for a Diné family (known more commonly as Navajo) on a reservation in what is called Arizona. One thing that fascinated me about being there was the complete lack of conversation about “tomorrow.”If I asked the question, for example, if I should take the sheep north or south to graze the following day, I would be totally ignored. Even massive happenings like the slaughtering and butchering of a goat seemed to happen almost spontaneously. Despite comments being made about how juicy a certain member of the herd was looking for several weeks before hand, it was the morning of that it was decided he was to be taken from the corral to meet his fate. Extended family would arrive ten at a time in the back of pick-up trucks, and like magic a feast hosted by one hundred year old Grandma would be had, all with no apparent planning. I could say so much more about how time seemed to work here. I could talk about how much history could be discerned in a square foot of mesa dirt, about how each animal that walked across it could be so easily read by eyes trained through generations living on one piece of land for hundreds and hundreds of years. I watched weather be predicted incredibly accurately by a rainbow ring around the moon or by the call of coyotes, and yet tomorrow was never taken for granted. 

It occurs to me now that being stuck in the past and fretting about the future is an ancient product of the colonization of our minds. I notice how when I am just here, the tree that is in front of me radiates a sort of being that is infinitely more profound than the knowledge I have in my mind that it is alive. I move through the world honoring the physical as alive, everything comes and returns to the living breathing Earth. I consume less, and more mindfully. When I am present, I allow myself to be myself in a group of friends without the protective guise of my own self-image, of my own ego. There is a vulnerability and an openness to connection that becomes possible, which in turn creates community, which allows for skill-sharing, food sharing and the gifting of services. This openness allows for the people to reclaim the things which we have learned to buy and outsource to an impersonal capitalized system. 

How we relate to our own bodies is another direct bridge to the inner and outer levels of colonization. When we show up in the moment and listen to our bodies as a guide, we remember them as holy. So many of the sexist, racist and agist external pressures the world is constantly bombarding us with seem almost laughable when we remember our skin and bones are sacred Earth, too. In this forgetting we try to colonize the bodies of our partners and lovers too, we become possessive of them without questioning why we feel we deserve exclusive access to another person’s body.

I am remembering in my heart that it is possible to hold multiple truths. We must educate ourselves and keep a keen eye for our privileges and biases, but we mustn’t forgot to be present because that is the only place where love lies, and without love its all pointless. I can’t think about of any of this without putting it in the context of Gaza, and the levels of heartbreak that I cannot even begin to grasp because I have been so lucky never to experience war. And yet I am remembering that I hold a potent inner tool for transformation. It is because I have the privilege to take time for spiritual practices, I feel a responsibility to do so. Being present in my own body changes the way I treat myself and the people around me. It changes the way I treat the Earth. So much ripples out from here.

In your feet, the world.

I am lost in thoughts. My mind wants to start making to-do lists for tomorrow and has forgotten about today. I need to hurry up and write so I can hurry up and take a nap and hurry up and hula hoop and hurry up and cook dinner. If only I were typing instead of writing this with paper and pen, then maybe my hands could produce words at the same speed as my thoughts. I’m sure even then I would find a way to get just a little bit ahead of myself.

So I take off my shoes and walk slowly along the border of the lake. Slowly, because I have no choice, the corners of the stones will hurt if I pick up my gait.

26 bones and 30 joints. More than 100 muscles and tendons and 3 layers of springy plantar fascia. A multitude of neural rich cells, the tissues of my feet are in quiet conversation with each other and the living breathing earth. This conversation changes course with every step. Tiny proprioceptive cells suggest to lift a little through my arch and to lengthen a little through the outer line of my leg. This supports not only the integrity of my foot but the tracking of my knee and the alignment of my hips. Even the river of my spine finds balance through the engagement of my foot as it moves atop the bowl of my pelvis.

It is through this dynamic movement of walking, especially on uneven ground, that the arch of the human foot is formed in each of us. Similarly, the first curve of the human spine is formed when a belly-lying baby begins to push its hands into the ground and lift their chest as they become curious about this brand new world.

I would like to write a research paper on how strong yet malleable feet are the foundation of a healthy whole-body structure, and how walking outdoors on uneven, textured surfaces shapes the feet over time into an adaptable base. I’d explore how the wearing of soled shoes acts as a crutch which atrophies both the perception and strength of our feet over time.

I’m getting ahead of myself again. I am back at the water’s edge, feeling the warm rounded stones with their rough edges stimulate my intelligent feet with every step forward. As my mind wanders to to-do lists of tomorrow - a wiggly thing that doesn’t even exist yet - I come back. I return to presence myself in every step. I feel the temperature of the earth and the the textures of the stones, I hear the sounds they make like wishing coins dropping into a fountain as I patiently walk along the water’s edge. My eyes take in the vast snow peaked mountains in the distance, my heart opens to the expansiveness of the view, and my feet call me back to this moment again and again and again.

In wonder and awe I marvel at how not only our environment shapes our bodies, but how skin meeting earth morphs our minds and spirits into something strong, yet supple, listening deeply and ready to respond.

Spinning Towards Infinite Vitality - How Hooping Heals

I’m really excited to share more of my passion for hula hooping with the world. Sometimes when I’m hooping, I think about all of the different parts and facets of myself that I am using, and it absolutely blows my mind. 

I’d like to describe just a few of the beautiful ways that hooping makes my life better, and could possibly have the same impact on yours. In order to begin to understand the immense benefits I’ll divide them up into some categories…

A KICKASS WORKOUT

I get an amazing cardio workout from hooping. I put on a song with a beat thats impossible not to dance too and get myself moving inside my hoop. I run and jump in place with the hoop rocking around my hips, I do squats with the hoop around my shoulders, I swing the hoop around me and I see how many times and how quickly I can jump over it and through it, all to the beat of the music. I sweat, and at the same time I can’t help but smile.

MORE MOVEMENT BENEFITS

I dynamically move my body in so many ways while hooping. By observing the path of the hoop around my body I improve my proprioception - or my ability to know where my body is in space. At the same time the hoop gives me feedback about how I’m moving. If my hips are level or working at a tilt, if my ribcage is aligned with my pelvis, or if I can rotate further in one direction are all some examples of the hoop’s biofeedback.  As I spiral the hoop up each vertebrae of my back I get circular mobilization of each part of my spine. I learn to move and stabilize the hoop at each of these points. 

When I hoop around just my shoulders, my elbows or the crown of my head, the cells in this part of my body literally get smarter and more aware. As I hoop around my feet I see my toes begin to move seperately from one another, more conscious of their innate abilities to move and respond to force. I get to enjoy a whole-body cellular dance party while hooping.

Hooping has not only helped my whole body to be smarter and move more efficiently, but has also improved my hand-eye coordination, my balance, and my core strength, just to add a few more physical benefits.

EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL HEALTH

The hoop is a toy, and when we can take this attitude of pure play into our time with it, a childlike curiosity naturally gets to come out and play. As we explore and patterns of movement emerge, our brains can find a special state called flow, and all sorts of wonderful neurotransmitters move through us. Joy and increased capacity for human connection often feels like the emotional residue of hooping. Finding new patterns to move with the hoop nourishes creative expression. The pathways are endless. 

While moving with the hoop is often joy-inducing, hooping is also a way I express a variety of my emotional experiences. I hoop my rage, my frustration, my sadness, my sexuality, my excitement and my desire to grow. There is room for all of these feelings within my hoop-dance. I feel each one, and experience what it might transform into.

The hoop gives me a tangible and visible experience of having personal boundaries. The hoop declares my personal bubble with non-disputable physical communication. Hooping gives me permission to take up space. 

SPIRITUAL CONNECTION

So much goodness can happen even on the most simple and beginner level of hula hooping. We move our hips in perhaps a way that we almost never do, in a way that mimics wave-like circular movement inherent to the spirals of life. We connect with our bellies, the feminine, our fertile juiciness and our potential to create. As we turn with the hoop we begin to slow down time and create more space, and when we move against the current we learn to speed things up. Can the innate spiral movements of hooping help reconnect our bodyminds with our primordial cyclical, moon-influenced, seasonal existence? Maybe!

I get the sense that the hoop feeds and expands energetic wheels, or chakras, in my body. Hooping around my hips allows me to access my power, my groundedness and my sensuality. Hooping around my heart helps me to feel love. Making big spirals with the hoop around my entire body seems to open and magnify my entire energy field. My breath fills the spaces as I open and expand, I am in my body and my pleasure as my physical body connects heaven and earth. I root into my hips and hurl the hoop skyward. 

Even dropping the hoop reveals new pathways as I continue to move and flow, I am reminded once again of the circularity of life as my endings enfold into new dances and beginnings. 

CONCLUSION

My mind can relax into the present as I hoop. I bring my yoga into this practice by inviting breath, awareness, and subtleties of alignment into my exploration with the circle. Hooping connects me with my breath, my joy, my pleasure, my creativity, my boundaries, and my unique self-expression. Magically, it does all this while also mobilizing and strengthening my body in a fun and dynamic way. Hooping can remind us we live on a big round planet, with endless cycles and rhythms, repeating themselves again and again and again. Hooping can help call us HOME to ourselves!